Do Sexless Marriages Have To Lead To Divorce?
Posted: Friday, January 05, 2007
by Dale Bradley
http://www.saveyourmarriage.co.uk
If your sexless marriage is causing you great concern, you may think that the problem is insurmountable and looking around for a divorce lawyer seems inevitable but this is not always the case. Sexless marriages are the cause of great marital unhappiness and finding a solution may not be easy and will require a great deal of thought before you even consider getting a divorce lawyer.
• Make you feel very lonely.
• Damage your self-esteem and confidence.
• Make you feel confused, restless and listless.
• Make you feel depressed.
You need to find out the root causes of why your marriage is now sexless when once it was probably loving, romantic and sexually fulfilling. Marriage without sex is bad but married sex without emotions is just as bad.
Here are some possible causes for why a marriage is now sexless.
Your partner works long hours while you are ‘stuck' at home
When one partner is working very long hours and the other stays at home, feeling ignored and lonely it is very common for them to take out their frustrations on their partner by avoiding sex as a form of silent protest. This can become an entrenched attitude, which is hard to break when it has been happening for some time.
Both of you work long hours
When both you and your partner have very demanding and time-consuming careers you never seem get the chance to spend time with each other and behave like the proverbial ‘ships that pass in the night'. The problem then is not one of loneliness and frustration for one of you but simply lack of time together which can cause you drift apart emotionally and sexually.
You need to decide what is more important, your marriage or your work and try to find some way of re-scheduling your lives so that you do not drift apart simply by not seeing each other enough.
Other reasons for your sexless marriage.
You need to think of some other possible reasons for why you no longer feel sexually attracted to your partner such as:
• They are no longer physically attractive to you.
• They are emotionally cold towards you.
• They are dishonest and untruthful with you.
• They are lazy and selfish.
• They are abusive and disrespectful toward you.
• They do not listen to you.
There are many other reasons for a sexless marriage but all of the above can cause you to avoid sex with your partner and create strain on your marriage.
If you do not address the problems in your sexless marriage then you may need marriage counselling or the problems could lead you into the arms of someone else… a divorce lawyer.
Save Your Marriage has many more articles on the subject of marriage and overcoming affairs.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)One partner becoming very obese can cause a lack of sexual attraction. But also, ageing. As people age, the sex drive diminishes. Men, on the other hand would prefer to mate with younger women if given a chance. Women, after kids, start focusing more on the family, the kids, the house, things and sex takes a second best priority. Other times, women just get tired of having sex. they lose the interest. Same with men. Many would rather make more money, have more things and sex is no longer a big deal or driving force for anything.
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